6. Thriving at Every Life Stage

This chapter explores how women can thrive during key life stages that often influence confidence, such as motherhood and menopause. Motherhood is a transformative experience, yet its impact on self-esteem is complex. Contrary to the common belief that it invariably boosts confidence, research shows it can have both positive and negative effects. Similarly, public discourse around menopause tends to emphasize negative aspects, focusing on symptoms and an alleged loss of femininity. This period, however, can bring about a deeper sense of self-awareness and confidence. At any stage of life, our brains may trick us into believing we are less capable, less valuable, or just not good enough. The chapter also examines how the two most widely used therapies for confidence issues—cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and psychodynamic therapy—can help address negative thoughts, challenge distorted self-perceptions, or break free from unhealthy comparisons.