The flow curve of sheared concentrated colloids can show a region of shear thickening. The underlying mechanisms involved in this effect has long been an issue. Recently the author and co-workers have used Stokesian dynamics approximated for high concentrations to simulate models of polymer coated particles in the thickening regime. This work continues the search for a particle level of understanding these systems in the thickening regime. Previous work found that shear thickening is associated with the formation of a network of contacts between polymer coats. Previous work by the author has examined the fabric (geometry) and texture (density distribution) of the contact network. However despite this many-body effect, it was also found that a very simple mean-field type argument at the level of a pair of particles in contact relates the particle interaction laws to the thickening part of the flow curve up to an unknown factor. In the argument this factor is determined by aspects of the destruction of particle contacts. In this paper several new results are reported. The first concerns the definition of the network and its coordination. The paper contrasts systems with different thickness of polymer coats and gives tentative evidence that the network formed sits close to what is known as the iso-static coordination. The second set of issues concerns the analysis of the lifetimes of particle contacts—in effect an examination of the unknown factor and assumptions of the pair argument. A surprising result is that some particle pairs have relatively long lifetimes. Finally, data is reported for the stress fluctuations in the thickening regime.