Introduction
Self-help books
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Cost . The costs of self-help books are low compared to a consultation with a psychologist.
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Accessibility. The books are easy available and can be read over a lunch or during a sleepless night.
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Privacy. A written solution for problems offers the opportunity to work on problems without ‘going public’ or having to speak to a doctor or psychologist.
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Excitement. Self-help books quite often become best sellers and buying and reading such a book gives you the opportunity to became part of an in-group. ‘There is no shame in finding your G-spot along with everyone else’.
Plan of this article
The nature of self-help books
Themes in self-help books
Growth
Relationships
Coping
Identity
Self-help is dominant in bookstores
Personal growth (19 books)
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Gray: Get what you want, and want what you have |
Goleman: Emotional intelligence |
Dyer: Not tomorrow, but now |
Beggs: Little book of inspiration |
Knoope: The creation spiral – make wishes come true |
Wilson: Little book of happiness |
Benninga: Get the best out of yourself |
Dyer: Enlighten your life – make dreams come true |
Dyer: No mountain high enough – better functioning, more satisfaction |
MacGraw: Learn to live |
Csikszentmihalyi: The way to flow |
Csikszentmihalyi: Flow |
Diekstra: I can think and feel what I want |
Robbins: Your unknown possibilities – NLP |
Sterk: Think to make yourself strong and confident – handbook for personal growth |
Young: More alive in your life – avoid pitfalls |
Sterk: Space for yourself – more control over your own life |
IJzermans: Obstacles on the way and in your mind – emotion at work |
Bakker: Vitality – enhance your energy |
Personal relations (9)
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Gray: Men are from Mars, women are from Venus |
Norwood: As long as he is happy – about self-sacrifice |
Vanzant: In the meantime; find yourself and the love that you want |
Cleese: How do I survive my family |
Gray: Mars and Venus start over again |
Gray: Love secrets from Mars and Venus |
Carnegie: This is how you make friends |
Gottman: Seven principles for a good relationship |
Forward: Emotional blackmail |
Coping with stress (8)
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Wilson: Little book of rest |
Wilson: Big book of rest |
Bergen: Lessons from burn-out |
Carlson: Don’t make mountains out of molehills at work |
Carlson: Don’t worry, make money |
Bakker: Vitality – enhance your energy |
Karsten: Deal with burn-out |
IJzermans: Obstacles on the way and in your mind – emotion at work |
Who am I? (6)
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Millman: The life you have been born for |
Vanzant: In the meantime; find yourself and the love that you want |
Ball: Dream encyclopedia – dream interpretation |
Bolen: Goddesses in every woman |
Bolen: Gods in every man |
Baanders: I am not sad, I am mad |
Miscellaneous
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Communication (5) |
Child rearing (3) |
Fiction (2) |
(Auto)biographies (2) |
Study books for students (2) |
Sleep (1) |
Depression (1) |
Psychotherapy (1) |
Hypnosis (1) |
Psychological tests (1) |
Spiritual intelligence (1) |
Problem-focused | Growth-oriented | |
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Theory-guided | IJzermans: Obstacles on your way and in your mind | Csikszentmihalyi: The way to flow |
Eclectic | Wilson: Little book of sleep | Gray: Love secrets from Mars and Venus |
Two dimensions of self-help
Readership
Gender: | |
Female | 73% |
Male | 23% |
Age: | |
20–34 | 37% |
35–49 | 36% |
50–64 | 18% |
≥65 | 5% |
Income: | |
Below average | 23% |
Average | 8% |
Above average | 48% |
Education: | |
Higher education | 49% |
Secondary education | 45% |
Primary education | 6% |
The effects of reading self-help books
Misgivings about self-help books
Specific techniques recommended by self-help authors
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Vent your anger, and it will go away. Research shows that expressing anger can keep it alive.
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When you are down in the dumps, think yourself happy by focusing on the positive. Research shows that the result may be the opposite of what you want. It can make your misery of the moment even more apparent.
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Visualize your goals; it will help you to make them come true. Research shows that we not only need optimism about our ability to reach a given goal, but also a sharp focus on the obstacles that are in the way. You need to pay attention to the obstacles and the necessary steps to reach the goal.
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Self-affirmation will help you raise low self-esteem. Research shows that this technique is not powerful enough. We need positive feedback from people that matter to us. ‘Self-esteem is the sum of your interactions with others over a lifetime, and it’s not going to change overnight’.
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Active listening can help you communicate better with your partner. This is an appealing idea, but research shows that even happy, loving couples don’t use the technique. It may be better to take your partner seriously, to avoid hostility and to avoid arousal.
Observed effects of reading problem-focused books
Indications for effectiveness of reading growth-oriented books
Clinicians’ ratings of self-help books
Strongly recommended:
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Albom: | Tuesdays with Morriea (Dinsdagen met Morrie) |
Csikszentmihalyi: | Finding Flow (De weg naar flow) |
Vanzantb: | In the meantime (In de tussentijd) |
Recommended:
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Csikszentmihalyi: | Flow (Flow) |
Goleman: | Emotional intelligence (Emotionele intelligentie) |
Norwood: | Women who love too much (Als hij maar gelukkig is) |
Robbins: | Unlimited power (Je ongekende vermogens) |
Not recommended:
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Carnegie: | How to win friends and influence people (Zo maakt u vrienden en goede relaties) |
Dyer: | Pulling your own strings (Beziel je leven) |
Dyer: | Your erroneous zones (Niet morgen maar nu) |
Gray: | Men are from Mars, women are from Venus (Mannen komen van Mars, vrouwen van Venus) |
Gray: | Mars and Venus starting over (Mars en Venus beginnen opnieuw) |
Strongly not recommended:
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Gray: | Mars and Venus in the bedroom (Liefdesgeheimen van Mars en Venus) |
Readers’ evaluations of self-help books
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‘Opened new avenues for me’.
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‘More self-confidence’.
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‘Made me understand myself and others’.
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‘Insight into problem areas’.
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‘Peace of mind’.
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‘Knowledge of hypertension and stress’.
Relevance of the advice
Topic | Recommendation in self-help books as observed in content-analysis by the author | Correlates of happiness as observed in empirical research |
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Activity level | + | + |
Aggression | − − | − |
Appearance | − | ± |
Calmness | ++ | + |
Creativity | + | + |
Dominance | ± | + |
Family | + | ++ |
Freedom | + | + |
Friendship | + | + |
Independence | ++ | ± |
Internal locus of control | ++ | + |
Intimacy | ++ | ++ |
Love-life and marriage | ++ | ++ |
Mental health | ++ | ++ |
Popularity | + | ++ |
Possessions wealth | ± | + |
Religion | ± | + |
Self-actualisation | ++ | + |
Tolerance | ++ | + |
Usefulness for others | + | + |
Similarities and differences with psychotherapy
Hope, placebo and expectancy
Of what value is an inspirational message to those in need of health, beauty, happiness, success, and creativity? In general, it lifts the spirit, engenders and supports hope, and keeps people striving towards their goals; it also fends off feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, despair and depression. This constitutes its greatest service. When a particular self-help book loses its value in this regard, when it is ‘used up’ as a source of inspiration and motivation, it is generally discarded and replaced. Readers become bored or disillusioned with particular self-help works and technologies, but seem to be quite forgiving of the genre. Perhaps the next book will provide the answers, the comfort, the cure, the secrets being sought.