When Less is More: On Time Work in Long-Distance Relationships

Time and temporality are under-researched areas in the sociology of intimate lives. This study therefore explores the aspect of time in long-distance relationships. On the basis of 19 in-depth interviews with individuals from Latvia with long-distance relationship experience, the study aims to examine how long-distance partners attribute meaning to and deal with the time they spend together and the time they spend apart. The theoretical point of departure is the notion of temporality as developed by Mead, which is combined with Flaherty’s concept of “time work,” referring to the actor’s attempts to manipulate her temporal experiences. This study suggests that time work differs among what is here conceptualized as different time-place zones, i.e. states of time and place where, in the dimension of place, the partners are either co-present or apart. Eight time-work strategies are identified in relation to these different time-place zones. It is concluded that time work enables long-distance partners to manage their relationship and to be in control of their subjective experiences of time in the relationship.